This is a guest post by Cassie Celestain from www.TrueAgape.com. She is a wife, runner and newlywed blogger. She believes in helping couples through the early stages of marriage by embracing their spouse’s quirks! You can get her updates at Facebook, Pinterest or Twitter.
The book The 5 Love Languages discusses how people feel love in five different ways. The way you feel loved is most likely not the same way your mate receives love. Therefore, it is important to know our spouse’s “love language” and then love them in that manner. This helps us to ensure that our spouse’s love tank is full at all times!
If you don’t know your spouse’s Love Language you can find out what it is in three different ways. Once we know our mate’s Love Language not only are we to love them in that way but we can start planning and implementing some dates as well!
Here are some date ideas for each Love Language:
Words of Affirmations
- Go for a picnic making sure to tell your spouse about his special qualities that you enjoy
- Watch a love story movie then afterwards compare it to your marriage noting positive things in your relationship
- On a bike ride or walk in the neighborhood talk about and encourage her dreams and goals
Quality Time
- Travel to a local landmark or festival he has wanted to go to
- Go to a game or scrimmage of a local sports team she enjoys
- Play cards or board games at home
Acts of Service
- Cook dinner for him then ask your him how his day was
- Do a DIY home project together that she has wanted to get done
- Tag team the grocery shopping-split the list and make it a game to see who gets done first.
Receiving Gifts
- Spend $5 on each other at a thrift shop or the dollar store
- Create a piece of art for each other at a pottery or mosaic studio
- Take a walk in the woods each choosing something for the other as a keepsake
Physical Touch
- Star gaze while wrapped up in a blanket holding each other
- Hold each other’s hands while you ice skate or roller blade
- Create an at home spa for her to enjoy with you as her masseur
These are just some ways to date your spouse using their Love Language. Once you know your mate’s Love Language you can start to make your dates even more special and meaningful!
Cassie says
Thank you for having me! The 5 Love Languages have helped my hubby and I for sure!
Spouse Dates says
Thanks so much, Cassie for sharing with Spouse Dates! These are great ideas. My love language assessment put me as bi-lingual with physical touch and words of affirmation about equal. My wife, on the other hand scored about even across all five! We are going with the idea that she is fluent in each one. I suppose I can take my pick from the list above and not go wrong! Thanks again! Steve
Cassie says
Steve- I know I am more quality time, but the others are all pretty equal. But I have realized I appreciate different love languages depending on what is going on. If I am super busy acts of service means more to me than something else would. If I am working hard on a project I may enjoy words of affirmations. So it could be the same for your wife! Glad you enjoyed taking the quiz!
Anastacia Maness says
My husband’s primary love language is giving and mine is quality time. So for our 17th Anniversary date we spent quality time window shopping and we each picked out a coffee mug we liked.
I never understood the different ways of showing loved before I read the Five Love Languages book. It really put it all into perspective for me.
Cassie says
Anastacia,
The love languages are an amazing thing! I never had really thought about it either until I read it. Once I read the book it made so much sense to me. I really think it makes a huge difference in our marriage.
I like how you celebrated your anniversary- keeping both love languages in mind!
Cari says
Cassie, I assume your spouse read the book, too? Just curious, but how did you bring it up as a joint-reading thing?
Ugochi Jolomi says
Hmnnnn… I think my husband likes words of affirmation. I love quality time and touch… Great post, thanks for sharing!
Cassie says
My hubbies is words of affirmations too! I have a lot of ideas on that love language bc of that on the blog. You can check them out here: http://trueagape.net/category/5-love-languages-2/words-of-affirmations-5-love-languages-2/
Jo @ Real Married Life says
I heard of the 5 love languages years ago, but never read the book. A few years ago, someone gave us the book as a gift, and I loved reading all of the details that went along with them! Thinking in terms of the languages has helped us each be more creative in our affection to each other. Great ideas!
Cassie says
I have to agree with you Jo. It does in deed help with creating affection that each will appreciate!
messymarriage says
These are great, creative ideas, Cassie! Thanks for doing the hard work for us so that we can bless our spouses. And thanks to you, Steve, for giving Cassie the opportunity to challenge us to do these practical and loving acts for our mates. I think I’m going to suggest that find a $5 gift for each other to my husband. I think it might be interesting what we come up with–allowing some new conversation about our choices for each other to follow!
Cassie says
I thought that one would be a fun one to try as well! Although my hubbies or my love language is neither receiving gifts. But it could also be quality time!