Remember and Imagine: A Relationship Affirming Exercise

STEP ONE:

Think about the story of your marriage.

Everyone’s story is a mix of good and bad, happy and sad, high and low. Most wedding vows anticipate that: for better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health.

But for now, look over the years and see the really good, the super happy, the high times. The best of the best.

Take your time.

Really remember.

Imagine in vivid detail the highlights of your life together.

Think about that story.

STEP TWO:

Now, pretend you are placed in an enchanted sleep for ten years.

While you are sleeping a miracle happens.

When you wake up, you can look back and see that your marriage has become better than you ever dreamed.

The best and most life giving aspects of your history together have been magnified beyond what you could have ever imagined.

You also see that in spite of being asleep (Alas, it was an enchanted sleep indeed!) your character in the story, YOU, helped it become what it was.

Now, think about that story and especially about your character.

STEP THREE:

Dream big for your marriage and become the best character you can imagine.  You usually end up going toward what you are looking.  You will always grow in the direction of your dreams.

What one thing can you do today to bring you closer to fulfilling this dream?

Do that thing!

What step can you take to become that character who makes your dreams come true?

Take that step!

STEP FOUR:

Repeat steps one through three in conversation with your spouse.

Hey, why not make a date of it? 🙂

---

Comments are like hugs, even the smallest one counts.

Thanks!